Can't I be good friends with a single guy if I'm married?

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Yesterday, 05:40 PM	? #7 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Indiana Posts: 880	It is my opinion, as well as many others, that opposite sex friendships while in a committed relationship is never a good idea. Opposite sex friendships are a large part of many, if not most, infidelity stories. Romantic feelings usually grow from bonding through conversation and enjoyable times. When that happens with OSF, UH OH!!! It could take a few days or it could take a few years, but it's happens....A LOT!!!! So to answer your question, NOOOO! Last edited by marksaysay; Yesterday at 05:57 PM.
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Yesterday, 06:27 PM	? #9 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 190	He's likely backed off because he recognized that he has feelings for you that go beyond friendship. He's doing the honorable thing and you should respect that, regardless of how you feel about it. Most infidelites start off just like what you are describing in terms of having a "good friend" of the opposite sex when married/in a relationship. You start talking a lot, bonding, and in the blink of an eye, you're wondering why your husband is questioning the calls, texts, and amount of time that you're spending with your "good friend". Believe me, it can happen so fast, your head will spin because I had a woman who was long-distance "good friend" and before I knew it, my marriage was coming apart before I realized what was going on. Let him back off and don't question it. He's probably doing you a good favor.
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